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I Won’t Give Up

I was recently on Aly’s blog, The Infertility Overachievers, where she now writes about raising two IVF miracles. I loved her newest post The New Sound of Infertility because I have lots of similar thoughts. She also included a link to  a beautiful song “I Won’t Give Up” by Jason Mraz that I wanted to repost here for my Blog Love post a day early. It really resonates with me and the struggles I’ve had with infertility.  I especially love the part, “I don’t want to be someone who walks away so easily. I’m here to stay and make the differences that I can make…” because it stikes a chord with everything I am still trying to do for the IF community. And I love the part, “At least we did intend for us to work, we didn’t break, we didn’t burn. We had to learn how to bend without the world caving in. I had to learn what I’ve got and what I’m not and who I am.” It made me cry and smile so big at the same time! This just very well may be your new empowerment song! I love it!! ;-)

So, in the words of the song, “I won’t give up on us, even if the skies are rough. I’m giving you ALL my love. I’m still looking up!” Have an amazing week!


Chime in on other songs that really resonate with you. I’d love to hear them!

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It’s Coming on Christmas

  So, It’s Blog Love Monday where I usually feature 3 bloggers at random and write about their happenings in their life according to their most recent blog posts. But this month during the holidays I’ve decided to change things up a bit. I know the holidays are pretty difficult when dealing with infertility. I’ve been there. And, while I would love to give some extra love out there to some ladies, I know you all need a lot of love. So, I’m going to do a little something special each Monday this month to share some blog love to all of you who happen to stop by.

   I was just decorating my tree and started listening to my Christmas play list and heard this song. It’s called River by Sarah McLachlan. It’s pretty old, many of you probably have heard it before. It really is one of my favorites because it carries so much emotion. I wanted to share it with all of you because I think when we are going through infertility, we all wish we had a river we could skate away on, especially when “it’s coming on Christmas“. The lyrics are beautiful. I want you to take it in and remember that we are all here, perhaps hurting and feeling alone.  While everyone is “Cutting down trees, putting up reindeer and singing songs of joy and peace,” all we may want to do is hide and skate away. But, we can have faith. It may be coming on Christmas, but it’s also coming on a new year of possibilities. Believe in the magic of the holiday season and don’t let that slip away.

  Here’s a great video to inspire you while you listen…

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Lovin’ Ryan & Michelle, Baby On Mind, and Danielle

 It’s Blog Love time!! :-)

 IMG_0045 bwOK, first up is Ryan and Michelle from In Pursuit of Parenthood. They recently wrote a wonderful post with the words from Let It Be. What a great song that really hits home for so many of us. And her Been There, Done That! post is great to let others know what she’s tried so she can ease her anxiety about explaining herself when people make suggestions. I LOVE that!

IMG_2905Next, we have Baby On Mind. In her newest insensitive post, she is venting about a baby shower invite. I think many of us have been there, so go give her some support! And she’s going to start some non-IF related posts as she waits for an upcoming IVF cycle which I LOVE because sometimes it’s nice to take a break and write about other things. It helps us get to know you better too!

  pink timAnd last we have Danielle from Barricades and Brickwalls. She turned forty-one since her last cycle and just started a natural cycle IVF.  (Psst…Go wish her some luck!) She recently embodied the icon to my right (which I LOVE) over the holidays. Maybe we can all learn something from Tim Gunn! ;-)

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The Waiting Game

   time-warpAs we wait for an adoption, Clomid, IUI, IVF or other type of cycle to begin, progress or be finalized, it can be very hard to play the waiting game. We can drive ourselves crazy with obsessing as many minutes as our minds take us there or we can distract ourselves just enough to get through each day or even each hour.

  As I went through IVF, I wanted to arm myself with as much information as possible so I was constantly reading, writing on the various infertility message boards out there and trying to connect with others going through the same experiences. But when I wanted to ‘un-glue’ so to speak, I usually immersed myself into my favorite TV shows and movies. I also love to be crafty so I crocheted, did some scrapbooking, and even taught myself how to quilt. Music was also a sanctuary for me. Sometimes, if I had a few moments or hours, I would listen to my favorite tunes and just try not to think about anything at all. And mostly, I napped whenever I could.

   How do you cope with the waiting game? Do you have some pretty good distractions that ease your stress and allow you some peace? Sound off and share! ;-)

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Lovin’ Kaitlin, Melissa, & Stacy

Yay! Another Blog Love Monday!

 

 First up is Kaitlin from Ah My Married Life. She has been in a funk lately but recently celebrated her mom’s birthday. She has been doing a 30 day blog journal which is a pretty cool way to get to know her! Go give her some blog love!

 

3-21-10-2Next, we have Melissa from So it Goes. She has been really stressed since having an IVF chat and realizing this is her one shot to try for baby #2 (which she has been doing for nearly 3 years). She is also trying to lose weight (and succeeding but also gaining), so lend her some support! Good luck with this cycle Melissa and congrats on your 400th post!

 

 IMG_4607And lastly, we have Stacy from The Royal Report. She’s dealing with work stress at the moment but is finding motivation from singing in her choir. (This songwas especially uplifting!) She aslo has a heavy heart as she comes to terms with not doing anymore to try to have children (after 12 years). We’re here for you Stacy! Huge hugs!!

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Win a Necklace, Hear some music, follow along!

   OK…so in case you missed it, there’s a little giveaway I’m having from Fertile Garden. See the post below  for all the details. It’s a beautiful necklace and I’m really quite excited about it!!

music_clef    So I’ve been debating about my new playlist on my sidebar. I was only able to get a handful of the songs from my Inspiring Tunes post (and of course I’ll continue to add more on, so feel free to write a comment about a song or two you love). But what I’m wondering about is…should I put the list on automatic play? And maybe random? Will that be a tad annoying or a soothing welcome? What do you guys think? Would you rather click play to hear the music?  I would love your opinions!! Thanks! ;-)   (I have a playlist on my other blog that always starts with Ordinary Miracles which I love and I think is fitting because that’s the title! But I wonder if anyone gets tired of it?)

   And lastly, if you’re here from ICLW and you’re new, welcome! I’m at 99 followers and I’ve been anticipating getting to 100 since my 100 Ways to Be Stress Free Through Infertility list!! And…well I’m so close I can barely contain myself! If you follow along I promise to keep it interesting and as stress-free as possible. My whole idea for this blog is to create a community of support! Thanks so much in advance!!

Happy ICLW!!

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Sidebar Clean-Up!

  cleaning So I’ve been doing some bloggy house-cleaning and organized my sidebar! I’ve added a few things like a search bar and a list of “Favorite Stress Free Posts.” I’ve moved around some blog links (but there all still there), moved down my buttons and moved up the categories and tags. I think this will help navigate to other posts better.

  I’ve also added the recommended songs to the “Tunes that Inspire” post and even added a play-list of some of those songs to the sidebar (right on top of the IF Virtual Book Shelf)! The songs do not automatically play but just click away while you’re reading to be inspired! And if you want to add any songs and books, please let me know and I’ll add them on!

   Remember, I write this blog for all of you so if you have any suggestions, let me know!! Thanks so much! ;-)

I will be doing a giveaway starting tomorrow from Fertile Garden to kick off ICLW! So do come back!

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Tunes that Inspire!

   This week I wanted to talk about music. Music can be a great uplifting way to get out of a slump or a way to help you have a good cry. It can take you to a dreamy place in the future or help you remember something or someone in your past. And many, many times, it can help us feel more connected to a world that we feel so alone in. I would love to know what songs inspire you and help you get through your infertility. Leave a comment to add to the list!! ;-)

   Here’s what I have so far…

Kellie Coffey - I Would Die For That         

Miley Cyrus – The Climb

Dawn Landes Cover of Tom Petty – I Won’t Back Down

Lee Ann Womack – I Hope You Dance

Addison Road – Hope Now

Rascal Flatts – My Wish

Josh Groban – You Raise Me Up 

Peter Gabriel & Kate Bush – Don’t Give Up

Christina Aguilera – Beautiful

Paul Simon – The Cool, Cool River

Natalie Grant – Held

MercyMe – Bring The Rain

Bebo Norman – I Will Lift My Eyes

Whitley – More Than Life

Russel Watson – Where My Heart Will Take Me

Paula Cole – Me

Kate Bush – This Woman’s Work

Indigo Girls – Power of Two

Sara McLachlan – Ordinary Miracle

Please add a comment to add some more! Thanks so much!! ;-)

And here’s the video of the first song on the list by Kelley Coffey. This one made me cry. So powerful!

 

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RELAX?!?

  

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    OK, so I was caught up in a post recently from Busted Plumbing about an Infertile Cat Fight which involved a comment left on Naomi’s 999 Reasons to Laugh at Infertility‘s Face.book page. A woman who had gone through PCOS and over 2 years of TTC recently got pregnant and felt that ”the reason it happened was bcz i stopped thinkin about it.” Then a fight ensued as many women took offense to it and it went back and forth. (See the whole text here if you’re dying to read it all! And while you’re there go over to my page to become a fan! ;-) )

   Anyway, it got me thinking about how the whole “RELAX!” or “Just don’t think about it” comments and how it could relate to my blog. I am well aware that the title “Stress Free Infertility” can be considered an oxymoron. You may wonder how you could possibly be stress FREE through your infertility…and perhaps it may be construed as me telling you to RELAX and you will get pregnant.

   Many readers may be thinking that your infertility causes stress and stress could potentially be contributing to your infertility and it is a vicious cycle that you feel trapped in. Well, it is this very thinking that got me to create this blog.

   So rest assured that although I would never come right out and say it, I am not even implying for you to RELAX throughout my blog posts because this very comment would most probably cause more stress! But by reducing the stress you are under in the various ways presented here, you may have better results in getting pregnant (which is detailed in the article linked below).

   Ask yourself this, if you do something that helps with stress (meditating, reading, writing, listening to music, acupuncture, getting a massage, sleeping soundly,  etc.) don’t you feel better overall? That is my goal…to help you through this whole mess of infertility by feeling better. If you are able to achieve a pregnancy, then that is another wonderful side effect now isn’t it? ;-)

While writing this, I stumbled on an excellent article worth checking out.

Stress and Infertility

(Since I haven’t done a Fertility News post in a while, consider this a consolation prize!)

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100 Ways to be Stress-Free Through Infertility!

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   So, this is my 100th post and I’m so excited! Today, I’m listing 100 Ways To Be Stress-Free Through Infertility, devided into 10 categories! Enjoy reading it and using it as a guide! Grab my button on the sidebar so that you can access this list at any time! ;-)

100 Ways to Be Stress Free Through Infertility!

  1. Blog!
  2. Do acupuncture
  3. Meditate
  4. Go to a support group
  5. Go to fertility counseling or coach
  6. Go to a life coach
  7. Vent to/get support from family and friends
  8. Go seek answers or support on message boards
  9. Find support through groups on Facebook or Twitter
  10. Keep a journal
  11. *Take a walk outside
  12. *Walk on a treadmill
  13. *Take a spin class
  14. *Bike outside
  15. *Ride an elliptical machine
  16. *Take a Pilates class
  17. *Do Pilate’s at home
  18. *Do yoga at home
  19. *Do yoga at the beach
  20. *Take a (fertility) yoga class
  21. Window shop
  22. Shoe shop
  23. Clothes shop
  24. Shop for Home Decor items
  25. Shop for books, music, or movies
  26. Go to the mall or outlet center
  27. Shop on-line
  28. Shop with family (mom, sister, SIL, hubby, etc.)
  29. Shop with friends
  30. **Window Shop for baby items (Only if this doesn’t cause more stress)
  31. Drink plenty of water
  32. Drink hot herbal tea
  33. Eat organically
  34. Eat healthy meals
  35. Take a nap
  36. Get at least 8 hours of sleep
  37. Say a positive affirmation every day
  38. Take a hot shower
  39. ***Take a bath
  40. Put your feet up
  41. Read this blog ;-)
  42. Read other IF blogs
  43. Read updates on Twitter
  44. Read updates on Facebook-(infertility related or from IF groups)
  45. Read inspirational poetry
  46. Read your favorite authors
  47. Read infertility memoirs
  48. Read information from infertility books (Knowledge is power!)
  49. Read a good love story
  50. Read a book that has been turned into a movie
  51. Go to the movies
  52. Watch a feel-good movie at home
  53. Watch a comedy
  54. See a movie in IM.AX
  55. Watch your favorite TV shows
  56. Watch videos on Yo.u T.ube
  57. Go to a Comedy Club
  58. Go to an Amusement Park
  59. Watch the sunrise
  60. Watch the sunset
  61. Play a board game
  62. Play a game on-line
  63. Play a video game
  64. Play a game on your phone or P.D.A
  65. Host a game night with friends
  66. Go out for a game night
  67. Go to a fair to play games & win prizes
  68. Watch your favorite sports on TV
  69. Go to a local pub to watch the game
  70. Go see your favorite team play LIVE!
  71. Listen to a visualization CD
  72. Listen to soothing, relaxing nature sounds
  73. Listen to a playlist of slow, relaxing songs
  74. Listen to your favorite artist/band
  75. Listen to a playlist of your favorite uplifting songs
  76. Go to a concert
  77. Go to a local place for live music
  78. Go to a music festival
  79. Create/play your own music
  80. Have a party with a music genre as the theme
  81. Go on a date with your significant other
  82. Go out to dinner with your significant other (or with friends)
  83. Go to a Bed & Breakfast with your significant other
  84. Go on a picnic with your significant other (or with friends)
  85. Take a getaway for the weekend/week with your significant other
  86. Take a drive with your significant other (or with friends)
  87. Take a cruise with your significant other (or with friends)
  88. Go dancing with your significant other (or with friends)
  89. Go to a friend’s house with your significant other
  90. Be intimate with your significant other
  91. Get a manicure
  92. Get a pedicure
  93. Get a facial
  94. Get a massage
  95. Get reflexology
  96. Get your hair done
  97. Get your make-up done
  98. Go to a spa for a weekend or a vacation
  99. Have a girl’s pampering day
  100. Go relax at the beach for some sun therapy

*All of these exercises are low-impact. Consult a doctor if you wish to participate and listen to your doctor’s advice about whether you should exercise or not during a (medicated) cycle.

**This is not meant to upset anyone! I realize this may of course be hard for you! I happen to really enjoy the planning, and picking out and actually buying a few things before becoming pregnant. You may not. If it bothers you, please disregard!

*** Listen to your doctor’s advice about this. Some doctors advise against baths after a  certain time in your cycle (like after an embryo transfer or IUI). And the same goes for hot tubs. Please use your best judgement!

And thank you to all of you who have been with me on my journey for all 100 posts! I appreciate you all so much!

Update: This post originally had a giveaway that is now over! ;-)
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