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Test Tubes And Testosterone ~ A Review

  I just finished Michael Saunders’ memoir Test Tubes And Testosterone A Man’s Journey into infertility and IVF and I have to say, I really enjoyed it! First, I want to say how refreshing it was to get the male point of view into the world of infertility and IVF. I’ve been through IVF and of course have shared many conversations with my husband on the subject but it was quite interesting to be inside Michael’s head through his journey. If you’ve ever wondered what your hubby was thinking when he needs to poke you for an injection or when you get moody, then you should pick up this book!

  The other thing I loved was how Michael explained the process. IVF in the UK is quite different from the US and I found it interesting to know what the other side of the world does when it comes to this procedure. For example, instead of Lupron injections to ‘down regulate,’ they use a nasal spray. And of course, there was a lot of tea to mark each occasion! Michael was also kind enough to do some reserach on IVF and FETs and he gives us a mini history lesson on the subject which I thought was enlightening. I also love how he gives us an excellent analogy of sperm moving to the egg by explaining it in human terms: ‘getting to Glasgow from London on foot without feet or legs, getting weaker by the day, and lots of things trying to kill you along the way. Then when you get there, you are exhausted and dying and then you discover you have to break through a wall they built around the city using nothing but your head.’ Now doesn’t that put things into perspective?

   Michael also gave some great advice throughout the book. In one part he writes to all the males out there (regarding your sperm), “Don’t eat rubbish, don’t drink rubbish, don’t put nasty things into your body and make sure you have happy knackers.” He also writes, “I firmly believe the best way to start IVF is to be as relaxed and chilled as possible.” I whole-heartedly agree! Other helpful parts of the book are Michael’s top ten tips, a glossary of medical terms and Internet abbreviations, and a list of resources to check out online all located at the end.

  I thought Test Tubes and Testosterone was really funny. Michael certainly has a wit about him and I’m guessing this sense of humour is what helped him through his infertility. There were many parts I was literally laughing out loud! There are also really touching parts that were sprinkled throughout that I loved. 

   *Spoiler Alert*

 If you’re interested to know if Michael does indeed have success (since some infertility memoirs aren’t wrapped up by the end in a neat little baby bow), then I am happy to report that he does! That’s all I will tell you, although he does announce his daughter Ruby in the opening Author’s Note. You’ll have to read the book to find out more!  

The only criticism I would give is that I wanted more! More details on the birth of his child(ren) would have been nice especially since he goes into great length about his thoughts on the subject before his wife Hayley even becomes pregnant. I also wanted to know what it is finally like for him to be a father. Although he does sum it up quite nicely in #10 on his tip list: “It can be worth it in the end, believe me.

   Read Test Tubes and Testosterone! It is an interesting read with a rare perspective into an unfamiliar world. You can share it with your significant other and everyone can get a laugh! You can follow Michael on Twitter at @theIVFdad and buy the book here! :-)

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Adoption Book Giveaway Winner!

And the winner is: #19! Dawn from Born From My Heart.

I hope you enjoy Tell Me Again About The Night I Was Born and read it again and again to your two sweet little ones!

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Lovin’ Empty Arms, Broken Heart, Kerry, and PCOS Chick!

  So, sorry for not having anything new until now. I was away and then quite sick the past couple of days. I’m still not 100% but life goes on…so here’s the blog love post I didn’t have the energy for yesterday and since I’ve dedicated July to everything ADOPTION, I am going to randomly select from my list until I get adoption related blogs! ;-)

  Ok, first up is Empty Arms, Broken Heart. In her newest post, she has a beautiful poem you must read. And in this post, she writes in depth about how she is now changing gears to pursue adoption amd stop infertility treatments, which I’m sure is a very difficult decision. Go support her and wish her luck!

  Next up, we have Kerry from Meant to Be. Lately, she’s addicted to watermelon! (And who isn’t? That’s such a great summer treat!) And in this post, she writes about the dog days of summer (which sounds quite relaxin’) with no news being good news. Go send her some summer love!

  His & Her InfertilityAnd last but not least, we have PCOS Chick who strangely enough was featured exactly a year ago just starting her home-study! She is now anxiously waiting for LP to come into her life.  In this post, I love how she is pouring her heart out about her infertility! And here’s a book she’s recommending to her readers so if you’re pursuing adoption check it out!

 

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Book Giveaway!

  Have you heard of the book Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born by Jamie Lee Curtis? I recently had it bundled with another Jamie Lee Curtis book through a Scholastic book order and didn’t know it was about adoption! It is such a sweet book that I think is perfect for all adoptive parents to read to their children! So, if you’re thinking about pursuing adoption, you’re on the list and waiting, or had the pleasure of finalizing an adoption and now have a child in your life, then this giveaway is for you! In honor of the 2011 National Adoption Conference in Washington D.C. next week, I will be giving away this book. You have until July 31st as I’ve decided to make July Adoption Month!

 *Just leave a comment below and tell me where you are in the adoption journeythat is the main entry. (If you would like to enter the giveaway for a friend or family member, tell me about him/her!) For extra entries, you can see below but it MUST be it’s own separate comment to be counted as a separate EXTRA entry!

  • like me on Facebook
  • Follow me on Twitter
  • Blog About the Giveaway (counts twice–tell me you blogged, then give the url)
  • Tweet about it but link back to this post and mention me! (@stressfreeIF)

 Good luck!!! ;-)

P.S. I am looking for guest bloggers! If anyone is attending the conference and would like to talk about their experience, or would like to discuss the adoption process in general, ask questions to seek support, write about common myths or any other adoption related topic, please e-mail me at sfinfertility@optimum.net. Thanks!

P.P.S. I will be going away on Saturday to celebrate my 8th Anniversary so I will not post anything new until next week. I would like to keep this post current so I am telling you all here instead of making it it’s own post! I will miss you all and be back soon! ;-)

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Good Eggs ~ A Review

  So I recently finished Good Eggs by Phoebe Potts. It was a very good memoir with a very interesting perspective. I’ve never read any graphic novels before so, being a writer myself, I was impressed with how the good old phrase “show, don’t tell” took on a whole new meaning throughout the story.

  Phoebe paints a vivid tale of her life through carefully chosen words and drawings that had me nodding and empathizing through much of it. And, yet the whole book wasn’t completely about her infertility (which I expected) but there was a true coming of age stroyline; a story of a woman trying to fit in, be accepted in this world through her art and her religion and ultimately find true happiness while battling depression. And although I loved many parts of her back story, I thought at times, it was a bit disjointed as she went back and forth between present and past.

  The infertility was heartbreaking to not only read but watch. It was like a little movie playing out in front of me, a silent movie all too familiar. I too questioned ‘all the things I could have done wrong in the last month’ like on page xiv and wondered “where’s my baby?” as I sat in a shop surrounded by moms like on page xv. But the miscarriages and the negative outcomes she experienced…the pain was real and evident in each little drawing.

  I was really glad for all the humor in the book! Phoebe added in lots of little tid-bits that were really funny like the thoughts of her cat Reuben and even her slipper. And just some of the thought bubbles in general were hilarious. I particularly found the Anatomy of a Fertility Clinic Waiting Room on page 98 to be really funny and yet oddly recognizable at the same time.

  I also really loved all the sweet and tender moments like on page 142 after yet another negative result when she drew her husband and her in an embrace and the words “It’s in Jeff’s description to say the things I need to hear even if they are not true when the alternative is just too hard to take.” Those words rang so true.

   I was honestly sad for Phoebe to read all the way to the end and not see her finally achieve success with her infertility but it was refreshing to read that in the end she was ‘full of hope’ as she light-heartedly began the discussion of adoption. I did really LOVE her analogy in her Afterword comparing her journey to her Hebrew ancestors -”suffering and celebrating.” I truly hope we can celebrate with Phoebe at some point in the future as she takes on a new story of motherhood.

  Phoebe Pott’s book Good Eggs was nominated for The Best Book Award for The 2011 Resolve’s Night of Hope. If you haven’t voted yet, please do! She is in good company with a few other great choices including So Close by Tertia Albertyn (which I reviewed here). *You can also vote for the best blog while you’re there!

  To look at what Phoebe’s been up to inlcuding other reviews go to her website. For a sneek peek into the book some more go here. Happy Reading! ;-)

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Want to win a FREE micro-IVF cycle?

East Coast Fertility is having an essay contest during NIAW! They are going to pick 5 winners (one winner for each day until April 30th) and the winners will get a copy of Jodi Picoult’s new book Sing You Home (which I just added to my shelfari bookshelf) and a Spa Finder gift card. These winners will then be eligible to win a FREE mirco-IVF cycle valued at $3,900.00! You can read all the details of the contest in this post! So since you have only a few days left, start writing those essays! ;-)

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Next Success Story…

So, I’ve been without a success story for a while. But I know there are many out there that have been successful but are most likely very busy or still a bit nervous through their pregnancy (either way, I’ve been there and I understand). But if you’re interested in past stories, go here to peruse through them. Also, you can scroll down my sidebar to see the list (that keeps growing) of Success after IF blogs.

And since I’ve discovered the world of self publishing, I will no longer be pursuing a proposal to an agent or traditional publisher for my success story book (where I will compile summaries of stories, stress-free techniques that helped, and advice). I’m going to start working on it soon and I’d love to feature as many stories in there as I can! So, if you’re interested in sharing your story on both this blog and in the book, go here for the Q & A format and write me at sfinfertility@optimum.net! Thanks so much! ;-)

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My Ordinary Miracles Coming Soon!

Big News Post! ;-)

When I first wrote my memoir, I researched agents that not only accepted memoirs but ones who would also accept the genre health and other topics I wanted to write. Then, I anxiously awaited for answers to my query from hopeful agents who wanted to take on my project. And then I queried a few more and waited some more.  I even seeked out those in the industry who may understand more deeply the need for stories like mine and still I didn’t get any response back that led anywhere. Some of the 40ish agents said my project wasn’t for them and most didn’t respond at all. And when I dove a little deeper, I found out that the most recent infertility memoirs out there are almost all self published!

And while at first I didn’t think I was going to go that route, I now realize that it’s a perfect solution! Not only are nearly all new authors over-looked in this tough economical era we are in because publishing houses simply don’t want to take the risk and can’t afford it….but it seems that infertility is still so taboo and many just don’t want to touch the subject at all. And since rights, royalties and turn around time is so much better when you self-publish, I decided to go for it!

So, in about 3-4 months, my memoir, My Ordinary Miracles will be available to buy! I am nervously excited but wanted you all to be the first to know (well besides Tw.itter.ville)! I will keep you all posted! Thank you so much for all your support. :-)  I can barely believe it’s happening!

Oh and if your curious about the inspiration for the title…scroll down my sidebar to my playlist and play #11!

A similar picture to the one I'm considering for the cover! What do you think?

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The Disease We Need To Start Talking About

ignored-campaign-image  I wanted to link to another great article written in the Huffington Post, similar to the Self’ article I linked to last week. The more articles written and books published, and the more we speak up,  the more everyone will start rallying for our cause….

  Another thing we can do, as Resolve suggests, is to comment on BOTH these articles (this one and the Self one linked above) thanking them and telling them what you think! You can also take the pledge to help raise awareness!

    The Disease We Need To Start Talking About 

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Too Crowded?

  IF booksSo I recently got an e-mailed response from an agent that said my idea was interesting but they’ve recently discovered that it’s “too crowded to pursue at this time.” So I e-mailed her back asking if it was just memoirs in general or infertility memoirs. She replied back that she meant books dealing with infertility. And, I have to say that I’m shocked! Too crowded? Infertility books? Really? I mean I know there have been a few new books published on the scene and I’m guessing this agent (being on the inside track) knows better than me but it just doesn’t seem possible. Don’t get me wrong, I think it would be absolutely wonderful if the market was indeed “crowded.” But I just don’t think we are there yet…

What do you all think?

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