Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms, moms-to-be, mother-in-laws, step-moms, grandmothers and great-grandmas, to those celebrating their first or their fifty-first, to those with mommies in heaven and to those with babies/children in heaven, to those who nurture animals, plants, & adults, and to all those who play a motherly role like teachers, nurses, & doctors! And especially to those who have been struggling, waiting, and hoping to be a mom. You’re all amazing women! Appreciate the day for what it is worth. My love, my hope, my heart goes out to all of you today.
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Test Tubes And Testosterone ~ A Review
I just finished Michael Saunders’ memoir Test Tubes And Testosterone A Man’s Journey into infertility and IVF and I have to say, I really enjoyed it! First, I want to say how refreshing it was to get the male point of view into the world of infertility and IVF. I’ve been through IVF and of course have shared many conversations with my husband on the subject but it was quite interesting to be inside Michael’s head through his journey. If you’ve ever wondered what your hubby was thinking when he needs to poke you for an injection or when you get moody, then you should pick up this book!
The other thing I loved was how Michael explained the process. IVF in the UK is quite different from the US and I found it interesting to know what the other side of the world does when it comes to this procedure. For example, instead of Lupron injections to ‘down regulate,’ they use a nasal spray. And of course, there was a lot of tea to mark each occasion! Michael was also kind enough to do some reserach on IVF and FETs and he gives us a mini history lesson on the subject which I thought was enlightening. I also love how he gives us an excellent analogy of sperm moving to the egg by explaining it in human terms: ‘getting to Glasgow from London on foot without feet or legs, getting weaker by the day, and lots of things trying to kill you along the way. Then when you get there, you are exhausted and dying and then you discover you have to break through a wall they built around the city using nothing but your head.’ Now doesn’t that put things into perspective?
Michael also gave some great advice throughout the book. In one part he writes to all the males out there (regarding your sperm), “Don’t eat rubbish, don’t drink rubbish, don’t put nasty things into your body and make sure you have happy knackers.” He also writes, “I firmly believe the best way to start IVF is to be as relaxed and chilled as possible.” I whole-heartedly agree! Other helpful parts of the book are Michael’s top ten tips, a glossary of medical terms and Internet abbreviations, and a list of resources to check out online all located at the end.
I thought Test Tubes and Testosterone was really funny. Michael certainly has a wit about him and I’m guessing this sense of humour is what helped him through his infertility. There were many parts I was literally laughing out loud! There are also really touching parts that were sprinkled throughout that I loved.
*Spoiler Alert*
If you’re interested to know if Michael does indeed have success (since some infertility memoirs aren’t wrapped up by the end in a neat little baby bow), then I am happy to report that he does! That’s all I will tell you, although he does announce his daughter Ruby in the opening Author’s Note. You’ll have to read the book to find out more!
The only criticism I would give is that I wanted more! More details on the birth of his child(ren) would have been nice especially since he goes into great length about his thoughts on the subject before his wife Hayley even becomes pregnant. I also wanted to know what it is finally like for him to be a father. Although he does sum it up quite nicely in #10 on his tip list: “It can be worth it in the end, believe me.“
Read Test Tubes and Testosterone! It is an interesting read with a rare perspective into an unfamiliar world. You can share it with your significant other and everyone can get a laugh! You can follow Michael on Twitter at @theIVFdad and buy the book here!
Friday Friend Link-up ~ Virtual Friends
So, I’m going to put this post up a day early so you have extra time to link up! If you’re not familiar with what’s going on, it’s Friends Month here on Stress Free Infertility! I would love for you to share the love and write a heart-felt post about one, more than one, or all of your internet buddies, your loyal & supportive followers on Twitter (and FB) and your besties all over the ALI community! Write your hearts out and link up! Don’t forget to link back here so that others can follow along, join in the fun, and read each other’s posts! Thanks!
Awards!
So, I just recently got two lovely awards and I am so incredibly honored! (And, I decided to combine them into one post!)
OK, so first Disheartened at Will You Knock Me Up Tonight gave me the Versatile Blogger Award! Thanks! It means a lot to me that I inspire you! So the rules are: you are to grab the award, link back to the person who gave it to you, share 10 things about yourself, nominate 15 recently discovered blogs, and let them know you awarded them…so since it’s ICLW week, I will start off with things about me:
- Every day, I know I am blessed and fully appreciate being a mom to 3 incredible miracles and I will never take that for granted.
- I am a teacher. I have taught 6th, 5th, 2nd and now 1st grade.
- I am a twin. My identical twin sister never had any trouble getting pregnant which was a heavy burden for me since we shared everything in life except this experience.
- I’m a capricorn which means I’m quite determined. If I set myself to do something, it gets done (usually).
- I live in NY (just an hour outside of the city) on Long Island.
- I lived in Colorado for a year and loved the mountains there! So majestic!
- I LOVE all kinds of pasta!
- Every single episode of Friends makes me laugh, even the re-runs that I’ve watched a dozen times.
- I would love to see how other cultures live on the other side of the world and travel to many distant lands.
- My husband and I will be married for 8 wonderful years this July and he still makes me smile everyday.
Here’s that list (in no particular order) of very recently discovered blogs ALL participating in ICLW:
- The blogger at Dealing With Dorr
- Alec at I Want to be a Daddy
- Krista at Diary of taking small steps to baby steps
- S at Misconception About Conception
- Sara at empty whole
- marilyn from Trying to Conceive
- Tippy from Tippy & Tidy’s Tumultuous Trip to Toddlers
- Kat from I’m Very Far Away
- Sarah from Bio Girl
- lostintranslation from We say IVF they say FIV
- angela and david from a toddler, a triathlete, and an entrepreneur
- baby steps from Baby Steps to Motherhood
- Marianne from The Daily Miracle
- Carmela from The One in Eight Couple
- SJ from sunshine on jupitor
Now, Keiko at Hannah Wept, Sarah Laughed gave me the Stylish Blogger Award! Thanks Keiko! I feel so stylish and you really are awesome and a true inspiration to me! ) ;-) So these rules are, I am supposed to snatch the image, link back to the person who gave it to me, share 7 things about myself, award 15 other bloggers and contact them so they know they’ve won. So this time, my list will be all about infertility.
- Being an infertility advocate is a real passion of mine. I make the time for it because it means a lot to me to be able to help others through such a difficult disease.
- I hope to continue to advocate for this disease for a long time to come.
- I hope one day insurance companies will cover any treatment that is needed for all patients.
- I hope in one way or another, every person affected with infertility has the child they long for.
- I hope more research can be done so we can all become more aware of answers to infertility problems and be able to fix them.
- I hope one day the fertile world becomes more aware of what infertile couples go through so they can be more supportive.
- I hope one day we all can speak up about our infertility and not feel ashamed, lost, or alone.
Here are the blogs I chose: (*straight off the ICLW list in no particular order!)
- daega99 from Are We There Yet
- Tillie from a nuttier life
- Rebecca from The Road Less Traveled (even though I know she won it already)
- Jenna from Among the Blossoms
- Lisa Marsh from Your Great Life
- Whitney from Whitney and Erick
- Jess at A Greater Yes
- Mrs. Bushey from The Bushey Life
- Maria from Mission: Fertile Soul
- Lu at The Inadequate Conception
- Kate from Busted Plumbing
- Aly from The Infertility Overachievers
- Jasmine from My Hopeful Journey
- Ashlee G. from Savor the Moment
- cainml from Raising Cain (someday)




































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