Here’s my Blog Love post to all of you! You are strong, bold and beautiful. Keep smiling, keep reading…Thank you for stopping by! I love you!
Tomorrow is the big day for love and affection…and well, you may not be feeling in the loving mood this year. Perhaps your infertility has robbed you of that ultra sexy feeling because there’s been way too much pressure in the bedroom. Maybe money has been tight because of treatments or adoption preparations and with money stress comes every day stress and nit-picky fights. Infertility has the power to take over our lives and change relationships we have with others. But, it should never take away all you have left in the love department. Here are some simple ways to spread some love tomorrow and anytime, (even if there’s not a lot of money to go around). Remember, love is always FREE!
- First, love thyself. Need a good pampering? Go ahead and splurge a little on something you’ve been wanting for a while now. Money tight? There’s plenty to do on a shoe-string budget from home spa treatments to taking a leisurely stroll during a ‘mental health day/hour off.’
- Love thy neighbor. Your neighbors and friends may not be able to relate to your infertility, but they mean well. Keep them at arm’s length but pull them in to be your shoulder to cry on when you need it most. Showing this vulnerability will not only show them you are in need, it flexes their friendship muscle and helps you see who’s truly on your side. Include them in some Valentine’s Day or anytime love by giving a card, a heart box of chocolaty goodness or a simple thank you to show how appreciative you are.
- Love thy spouse/partner. Remind him/her that you really do love and appreciate all that he/she does for you. Sometimes, it may be hard to rekindle some romance but some soft music, candle-light and a nice home cooked meal can go a long way. If you’re feeling creative; a poem, a scrapbook/slide-show, a special song or even a dedicated blog post can erupt a sea of emotions. Before I was married and totally broke, I once made my husband a painting with swirls of red paint and used Chinese characters that meant love, loyalty and devotion, among others. He loved it and it still sits by his night table!
Happy Valentine’s Day! 
Love thy self is the one I think most of us really need to work on. It IS so hard to remember to take care of ourselves sometimes.
Hi! Thanks for stopping by my blog yesterday! This is such a sweet post, and I think so important to remember. I’m trying to be very open about our infertility with people who haven’t experienced it themselves, and I’m finding the love goes both ways! Happy ICLW!
Great advice. Love is putting the needs of someone else ahead of yours…and any way you show that is what matters.
Plus – it is always nice to celebrate love on every day of the year.